When you can’t see past your nose either way, making a decision is hard. I have a tendency to visualize to the point of making things seem real – but that does not mean that is the way they will turn out.
I can paint glorious rosy swatches all over each possibility,
spin it until it seemingly twirls pirouettes on it’s own.
create an exciting emotional tsunami
which leaves me that much more confused.
Something I read in Psychology today this month is strangely relevant…..even if I don’t want to acknowledge it. Entitled, “Why do Daydreamers Fail?” the study cited suggests that the more clearly you visualize, the less motivated, and in turn, less likely you are to succeed.
The published paper mentioned, “Positive fantasies about idealized futures sap energy” flies right in the face of those who follow “The Secret.” Even if it is a little depressing for this dreamer, I guess they have a point. I can practically transport to an idealized future, to the point that it feels like it already happened….which leads to the whole, been there, done that emotion.
so, i am giving logic and reality a shot with this big decision….trying to weigh out the options, consider how my decision will affect others, taking practicalities under consideration…and on and on. Where am I going, why?
do I use the wisdom of the Cheshire Cat
“If you don’t know where you’re going, it doesn’t much matter which way you go.”
or Yogi Berra
“When you come to a fork in the road, take it.”
Either way will work, somehow, someway…. i imagine.